If you love your children or the children in your life(and I’m sure you do) you may want to protect them from some of the issues that could stunt their emotional growth.
Sometimes it may look as if you’re being harsh to your children or those you don’t want to influence them negatively.
It could be another child, a family member, a neighbor, or a television show. It could be an idea or a philosophy, it could be an illness.
But inevitably life hands all of us blocks. Things that seemingly get in the way of our progress, but perhaps they actually offer us the ability to progress more steadily, with more fulfillment and understanding. This is so for our children.
For children life can be extremely involved. Children are like sponges and some things they just can’t process completely. This doesn’t stop them from trying however. They do their best and sometimes this leads to issues. I certainly remember things from my childhood that I misunderstood and took deeply into myself. I’ve also seen the wheels rolling in the minds of other children as they put ideas together to see their way around a difficult issue.
What do we as adults do to help them with them? Is there anything we can do? I think it depends on the issue what the best response is, but most importantly I think children need to be heard and need to know they are supported. If you can’t do it yourself, try to find someone who can.
Adults are not superheroes, we can’t all offer everything to the children in our lives, but we can be honest and acknowledge what they’re going through. Please don’t ignore your children’s issues. It may be painful, and we don’t want to look at the things we feel we can’t solve, but its important to bring awareness to each situation you witness, and to let the child know they are not alone, that they can find their way out.
If you ignore the issue may become several unnamed issues that are too difficult to tackle as they spider-web around the whole world of the child. They may grow up and become an adult that looks fine on the outside but is choked up by the spinning inside. Or they may become an adult that is so caught up and dissheveled they can barely function. Or they may encounter a breakdown at a very early age.
As parents we can’t be responsible for the outcomes of anyone else’s lives, even our children. We have to let go and allow…but we can bring focus to what we notice and what we feel is important and be aware of the issues so that they may reach the light of day and be uncovered before they become too many issues to see clearly.
These things will come up. Sometimes they will be solved quickly and sometimes they may take years before anyone can really understand the answer, but it is worth it to just allow the truth to sit out in the open. I hope this inspires adults to show awareness of their own childhood issues that may need to be released, as well as the issues of the children in their lives.